Necklines - I actually started writing about this a week or two ago. Even had a really catchy title going. Then later that day the topic came up on the Sonlight forums. Not wanting to look like a copycat, I bagged the idea for a while. I'm going to bring it up today without a catchy title. Plus, I have some other viewpoints to bring to the table from reading the thread on the forums.
I periodically think about the issue of modesty and all it entails. Lately it's been on my mind more frequently for a variety of reasons - seeing lots of breasts at church, struggling to find shorts for my infant daughter that do more than cover her diaper, seeing lots of summer outfits running around.
I'll throw out some questions for you to think about, tell you my thoughts, then I'd love for you to tell me what you think. For the sake of this post, I AM defining "sexy" as purposely dressing in a way that draws attention to your body, particularly in a sexual way. I am NOT defining it as dressing in a way that is simply very attractive to someone. Bear in mind that we all have different thoughts on the issue. So, feel free to disagree, but don't be disrespectful.
* How do you define modesty?
* Do you feel a moral obligation to consider whether your clothing reveals too much to the opposite sex? Why or why not?
* What do you think about the difference in clothing for the genders? Females - skin tight shirts, ultra low-rise pants, spaghetti straps, strapless shirts/dresses, low necklines, tight pants, shorts that end just below the butt, bikinis, one piece swimsuits. Males - baggy pants, loose shirts, shorts that go just above the knee or lower, swim shorts that go to the knee, tank tops with straps that cover the whole shoulder, pants that sit at the waist, pants that sit halfway down the butt. Why do you think women's clothing is so much tighter and revealing?
* Would you feel comfortable with the men in your life revealing as much skin and body shape as the women in your life do? Why or why not?
RANDOM THOUGHTS FROM OTHERS
* We all should be responsible for our own thought process, regardless of what we see.
* We have a moral obligation to not dress in a way that emphasizes our sexuality
* Americans make too big of a deal about bodies. Nudity is not a big deal in other countries.
* If everything in America is sexualized and if bodies are generally viewed through a sexual lens, then we should aim to dress in a way that is not inherently "sexy".
I think it is very easy to become legalistic on this issue or to take responsibility for the thoughts of every single person who sees you. I think it is also easy to have no/a low standard and take no responsibility for the thoughts of the people who see you. Neither of those options are great. I don't necessarily think there is a line that can be drawn - wear this, don't wear this - where everything fits neatly on one side of the line.
What I DO think is important is to truly consider why you are choosing to wear what you wear and how your clothing is viewed by others. The "why" first. Trying to be sexy? Why? For whose eyes? Do you want to be viewed sexually by all who see you? The "how it's viewed" next. How much of your body are those around you seeing? Does the little boy standing behind you in line at the grocery store know exactly what color your thong is? Does the woman trying to chat with you have to see 2/3 of your breasts throughout the conversation? Does the man dropping his kid at class get to see most of your breasts and all of your bra when you kneel down to put a wristband on his child?
In a nutshell, I think checking your motives and considering the consequences for yourself and others before making a clothing purchase are very important. So, tell me your thoughts on the matter.
New Tribes - My sister and her family work with New Tribes Missions in the cool mountains of the Philippines. For the last seven months or so they have had a live-in tutor for their girls. She'll be there through the rest of this year and they have started hunting for her replacement. So, if you or someone you know would like to spend a year or so, starting about January, overseas teaching my cute nieces (and playing with my cute nephew and visiting with my fantastic sister and chatting with my great brother-in-law ... but that's beside the point), then go check out their blog for some info.
Nothing - That is the word I heard yesterday. Nothing. Such a glorious word to hear from the woman who just did your mammogram!! I had one done 7 1/2 years ago because of a teeny tiny lump. One mammogram, one ultrasound, and one needle biopsy later we knew the little lump was nothing bad. Well, now I'm four years younger than my mom was when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. So, I've been ordered to start getting annual mammograms. And yesterday's was delightfully uneventful.