Sunday, December 31, 2023

BOOKS I FINISHED - DECEMBER 2023


The Chocolate Jewel Case, written by JoAnna Carl

Chocolate, burglary, and murder in a tourist town are what drives the plot of this mystery. Throw in the lack of air conditioning in the heat of summer and more houseguests than is comfortable for good measure. This book was the December part of a year-long gift from a friend, one book to unwrap and read each month.



A Christmas Memory, written by Richard Paul Evans

This novel, which is based on actual events in Evans' childhood, is a sad story of loss, grief, guilt, and loneliness. It's also a sweet story of friendship, compassion, hospitality, and loyalty. It's a tender story about the importance of meeting people where they're at, serving them in whatever way we're able, and encouraging them to keep moving forward. 

p. 86, "There are two ways of being strong: one is pushing people down, the other is pulling people up."

p. 115, "I never wanted to be someone who lived his whole life collecting all his injustices in a tin cup."

p. 175, "We hate grief because it hurts. But not everything that hurts is bad. Whatever grief may be, it's one thing for certain. Grief is the truest evidence of love. And we should always be grateful to have something to love, even if it means that we have to lose it."



The Five Wishes of Mr. Murray McBride, written by Joe Siple

A ten year old boy in need of a heart transplant has a list of five wishes he'd like to come true before he dies. An unhappy 100 year old man who wants to die has chosen the date to do so. An unlikely friendship they're originally resistant to, but don't realize they both desperately need. 

p. 138, "It's an important thing to know, to win with grace. And to lose with dignity, too."

p. 168, But that's the thing about words: once they leave your mouth, there's not taking them back. And sometimes, when a man's hurting, he lashes out and hurts others too. Like there's some part of us that can't handle hurting alone.

p. 207, Its true that honesty's the best policy, but it's a policy that compassion sometimes breaks in two.



The Mistletoe Inn, written by Richard Paul Evans

An aspiring romance author, someone whose own experiences with romantic relationships have been bad, is given the opportunity to hear her favorite author speak at a weeklong writer's conference. This novel is about seeing and caring for others, as well as being seen and cared for by them. It's about honesty, vulnerability, and not giving up on what matters most.

p. 11. They say love is blind, but it's not. Infatuation is blind. Emotional neediness is blind. Love sees the fault - it just sees beyond it as well.

p. 43, Sometimes the most whole people are those who come from the most broken circumstances.

p. 65, Why is it that, so often, those with the least are the most eager to give?

p. 150, "We don't appreciate the things that come easy to us as much as we do the things we have to work for. I think that's true for love as well."

p. 182, "That whole 'love is never having to say you're sorry' crap is just that, crap. Love is learning how to say you're sorry. It's the trial and error and correction that makes it worthwhile."

p. 235, "Books are important things."

The simple words reverberated with authority throughout the darkened room. It was like God has spoken.

"Books are more than paper and glue and ink. They are more than digital imprints. They are sparks. Sparks that ignite fires. Sparks that ignite revolutions."

p. 279, "Depression is a horrible thing. It overtakes a person like a parasite, feeding off their hope and self-esteem until there's nothing left."

p. 280, "But anger isn't strength. It only masks itself as strength. It's weakness. At its core, it's fear. Fear of facing what might be the truth."

p. 299, Real love is not to desire a person but to desire their happiness - sometimes even at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is to expand our own capacity for tolerance and caring, to actively seek another's well-being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest.



Noel Street, written by Richard Paul Evans

A widowed, single mom. A suffering veteran. A sweet, predictable story about the value of friendship, the importance of honesty, the power of both humility and forgiveness, and how we heal ourselves when we care for others.

p. 50, I've always believed that there are none so impoverished as those who deny the blessings of their lives. 

p. 52, "Some people don't even have TVs."

He looked absolutely amazed. "What do they watch?"

I kissed the top of his head. "Life."

p. 165, "Belief and knowledge aren't the same thing. Belief is much more powerful."

p. 187, I would rather have someone show me love and not tell me than tell me and not show me. I think we're all that way.

p. 274, Some own up to their past. Some are owned by their past. The wise take what they can from the past and then leave it behind.



A Winter Dream, written by Richard Paul Evans

A modern retelling of the biblical story of Joseph, this novel's about a man who's wrongly banished from the family advertising agency he's been part of for several years and faces consequences for a false accusation in his next job, but eventually discovers the hard path he's walked has led him exactly where he wants and needs to be. 

p. 51, The greatest falls - of towers and hearts - happen when beliefs are built upon assumptions.

p. 103, Time exposes all secrets.

p. 164, Relationships, by nature, require trust, and trust cannot grow in the fog of secrecy.

p. 165, Is painful truth better than ignorant bliss?

p. 221, Caution never breeds greatness. Caution is the birthplace of mediocrity. 


The Wish Book Christmas, written by Lynn Austin

Best friends since their childhood overseas and navigating complications in their relationship and lives as adults in America, two single moms are raising their young sons together. When it becomes clear that the boys are completely obsessed with what they can receive at Christmas, the moms set out to shift their focus to giving.

p. 169, "It's natural to mourn the people we love and to cling to them in our memory. But there comes a time when it's also natural to be happy again. It doesn't mean that we loved them any less. In fact, I think it's a sign of our great love for them that we can still remember what love feels like and be willing to give it and receive it once again."


Wishtree, written by Katherine Applegate and narrated by Nancy Linari

I randomly decided to listen to an audiobook a couple days ago, but wanted one that was short and available immediately on Libby. I ended up with this middle grade novel by an author I've read once before, a short book to finish during one walk and two late night puzzle sessions. It's about a very old tree that's been part of an annual community tradition for many years and is about to be cut down. But it's also about being kind to people who are different than us, the importance of trees to animals and people, and doing what we're individually able for the greater good. Plus there's a little bit of magic.

Ch. 7, Making others feel safe is a fine way to spend your days.

Saturday, December 30, 2023

PUZZLES I FINISHED - DECEMBER 2023


A Charlie Brown Christmas - Aquarius - 1,000 pieces

The people were fun to put together. The two sections of blue with pieces that would fit into the wrong spot, not so much. I'm thankful for Tyler's help getting it finished and for saving the last piece for me to put in.



Winter Garden Snowman - Artist: Liz Goodrick-Dillon - Bits and Pieces - 1,000 pieces (missing 1)

Lots of birds, some wildlife, a country home and barn, and the fun of a snowman. I love this winter scene!



World Pieces - Artist: Eric Dowdle - Dowdle Folk Art - 1,000 pieces

A friend shared her puzzle with us and it got finished last night. Such a fun representation of our world!

Thursday, December 28, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful that the only time I left our home yesterday was to go for my daily walk. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, December 21, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for people who join me in naming things to be thankful for every Thursday. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, December 14, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for toothbrushes. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, December 7, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for the community I live in. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, November 30, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful that Devon built our fire this morning. What's one thing you're thankful for?

BOOKS I FINISHED - NOVEMBER 2023


God is More Than Enough, written by Tony Evans

Breaking down Psalm 23 one verse at a time, this book is a reminder how much God loves us and how he meets various types of needs we have. With only six short chapters, it was a perfect launch point for my Bible reading each day this week. 



I Never Thought of It That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times, written by Monica Guzman

When I said something on Facebook about reading I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations, written by Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers, back in July 2022, a friend who'd read it said she'd also enjoyed this similar book by Guzman. It's definitely a good read-alike. I prefer Holland and Silvers' book, mostly because the writing was less casual, which feels more professional to me for this type of book. However, Guzman's book places the same high value on seeking to understand those who have different beliefs than we do instead of demonizing them, which is important to me. I especially appreciated all the examples she gives of questions that lead to understanding and peace, not to division and conflict. 

xxiii, We know what happens when the people we love don't think we really see them: they go find someone who will.

p. 12, That's what happens when you're surrounded by people who share your gut instincts: You end up sharing your blind spots, too. And when the whole group has the same blind spots? You'll amp up each other's ignorance and make bad decisions even more spectacularly together than each of you would have apart.

p. 14, When you're surrounded by people who reflect the same basic set of perspectives, you'll find it harder to grasp any others. Not because you're incapable of grasping them. But just because you're less likely to be given the chance.

p. 49, "What am I missing?" is not just any question. It's the question. It's the doorstop to put down in the hallways of your mind, pathway after pathway, to keep open possibilities from slamming into harmful assumptions.

p. 74, But there's no question that the most valuable opportunity to put our curiosity to work is precisely in that vulnerable place where perspectives meet in all their raw complexity, ready to push and bend, to reveal and be revealed.

p. 115, Fail to notice your assumptions and they might harden into lies. Turn them into questions and they'll get you closer to the truth.

p. 134, The first is, "Are you willing to believe that you are wrong about something?" < snip > "That simple observation, 'I'm wrong, I just don't know what about!' should produce some humility," David said. "Some willingness to listen."

David then asked his second question: "Which do you value more: the truth or your own beliefs?"

"Cause they're not synonymous," he told the class. 

p. 135 (quoting Elizabeth G. Saunders) "When you feel you won online, you've rarely changed anyone's mind," she writes. "Instead, you stand as the triumphant king of a lonely land soldering with the ashes of people you've decimated with your words who are less likely than ever to ever listen to your side again."

p. 159, Asking the question "What am I missing?" reminds us that our perspectives are always limited and we're always missing something, keeping our curiously on standby.

p. 178, When we look across our distorted, exaggerated divides, it's easy to mistake a different ordering of values for an absence of the ones we care about most - and judge people accordingly. 

p. 193, It's the "walk a mile in my shoes" rule: See the issue you're discussing from the perspective of someone with a very different stake in it, and it's almost guaranteed to illuminate something you hadn't considered.

p. 193, This leads to another one of my all-time favorite questions to ask anyone steeped in assurance about their own position, especially when they've just criticized the other side: "What's your most generous interpretation of why they disagree with you?"

p. 202, Listening is showing people they matter. And when you stay long enough to hear people all the way through on something they care about, you show them they matter loads.

p. 234, That while each of us fights and rages for our own convictions, we can choose to leave room for what we're missing and the people who can show us different views on the same shared world. Not to change our minds but to challenge them, one "I never thought of it that way" moment at a time.
 


Long Way Down, written and narrated by Jason Reynolds

A 15 year-old boy's older brother is murdered. He enters his apartment building's elevator the next morning to get revenge and is met on each floor of his descent by someone that he knows. The catch is that each of the people are dead. Written in verse, it's a story about choices, consequences, and how we don't always know as much as we think we do about circumstances or people.



The Lost Girls of Paris, written by Pam Jenoff

Inspired by actual events and told from the perspectives of three women spread across various locations in two different years, this piece of historical fiction is a story of danger, loyalty, and betrayal. It's about women who broke discriminatory barriers to serve their country, put their lives on the line for their jobs, and then disappeared without any explanation. This book was the November part of a year-long gift from a friend, one book to unwrap and read each month.



The Man Who Died Twice, written by Richard Osman

Diamonds are missing, people are being killed, and four friends in their seventies are determined to figure out what's going on. Local law enforcement and the mafia are involved, so there's a bit of a race to see who can solve the crimes first. As with the first book in the Thursday Murder Club series, the characters in this second book are loveable and the dialogue is witty. I don't know if I'm just not remembering the first book accurately, but this one seems to have way more comments about people's desire for casual sex. Just a heads up for those that matters to. 

p. 72, Revenge is not a straight line, it's a circle. It's a grenade that goes off while you're still in the room, and you can't help buy be caught in the blast. 

p. 127, An apple is an apple whether you are eating it because you like to take care of yourself or you are eating it to impress a new girlfriend. The nutrients are the same. < snip > ... and that he needs to pretend to enjoy life a bit more than he does. And what if it's the same as apples? What if pretending to enjoy life is the same as actually enjoying it?



Seedfolks, written by Paul Fleischman and narrated by Sunnit Hit, Hue Edwards, Barbara Rosenblat, Michael Rafkin, Stephanie Diaz, Earl Alexander, Sandra Squire, Nicholas Luksic, Noria Ahrash, Robert Hit, Russ Lamore, Michelle Blackman (Huge thanks to Blackstone Publishing for e-mailing me the list of narrators when I couldn't find it anywhere online.)

An abandoned lot in Cleveland is filled with garbage. One day a girl plants a few beans. Eventually the space is cleaned out and becomes a community garden. Told from the perspectives of several people, all coming from different countries, experiences, and ages, it's the personal stories of several individuals, but also about the ripple effect of any single person's choices, how one small choice can snowball into something much bigger, and the importance of belonging.


THE BOOK I BAILED ON



Everything Sad is Untrue (A True Story), written by Daniel Nayari

So many people love this book and it seems like one I'd enjoy, but I struggled with the writing format. I'll probably try it again later, knowing what to expect. Meanwhile, there were some quotes I liked from the part I read.

p, 52, When the immigrants came to America, they thought the streets would be paved with gold. But when they got here, they realized three things:

1. The streets were not paved with gold.
2. The streets were not paved at all.
3. They were the ones expected to do the paving.

p. 86, There is the part that makes you improve yourself - makes you practice controlling your fear and jealousy. There is the part where you choose every action so that it doesn't hurt the one you love, even indirectly. There's a lot more to love than smooching.

p, 92, Memories are tricky things.

They can fade or fester.

You have to seal them up tight like pickles and keep out impurities like how hurt you feel when you open them. Or they'll ferment and poison your brain.

Wednesday, November 29, 2023

PUZZLES I FINISHED - NOVEMBER 2023


Holiday Sleigh Ride - Artist: Jane Wooster Scott - Mattel Puzzles - 1,000 pieces

I love the homes and people in this one. I also really love my sister, daughter, and youngest son for working hard with me on the parts with lots of sameness.



Seasons of Birds - Artist: Stuart Cox - Ravensburger - 1,000 pieces

I thoroughly enjoyed the different scenes and variety of patterns in this one. Bonus points for it being a brand I love, bought at a significant discount, and paid for with a gift card. 



Taj Mahal - Artist: Eric Dowdle - Dowdle Folk Art - 1,000 pieces

I enjoyed the vibrant scene filled with people, flowers, animals, and architecture. 

Thursday, November 23, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for crispy / French fried onions. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, November 16, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for dry roasted almonds. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, November 9, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for the music of Andy Grammer, Sandra Boynton, and Tenth Avenue North - totally different from each other, but perfectly suited to particular moods. What's something that you're thankful for?

Thursday, November 2, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for the apple slices dredged through peanut butter. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Tuesday, October 31, 2023

BOOKS I FINISHED - OCTOBER 2023



Anxious People, written by Fredrik Backman and translated from Swedish by Neil Smith

An apartment viewing, a foiled bank robbery, and random group of people with an assortment of personal problems. It's a story that reminds the reader everyone is dealing with a struggle of some sort, we're more similar to everyone else than we think we are, vulnerability is important, and we never fully know how intertwined our lives are with other people's. Backman does a great job of creating characters you love (even the ones you don't like) while sharing the challenging parts of their life in a way that's both endearing and funny. As a sidenote, there's a lesbian couple in the story. I mention that simply as a courtesy for my friends who wouldn't be comfortable with that aspect of the plot, as it's not mentioned in the book description on Amazon, but it's not a topic to be discussed here. I chose this book for the "by a Scandinavian author" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year. Please note the pages listed for the following quotes are from the large print edition.
 
p. 42, Because that was a parent's job: to provide shoulders. Shoulders for your children to sit on when they're little so they can see the world, then stand on when they get older so they can reach the clouds, and sometimes lean against whenever they stumble and feel unsure.

p. 56, Drugs are a sort of dusk that grant us the illusion that we're the ones who decide when the light goes out, but that power never belongs to us. The darkness takes us whenever it likes.

p. 100, The truth of course is that if people really were as happy as they look on the Internet, the wouldn't spend so much d*** time on the Internet, because no one who's having a really good day spends half of it taking pictures of themselves.

p. 157, "One technique I'd recommend is to as yourself three questions before you flare up. One: Are the actions of the person in question intended to harm you personally? Two: Do you possess all the information about the situation? Three: Do you have anything to gain from a conflict?"

p. 301, When you're a child you long to be an adult and decide everything for yourself, but when you're an adult you realize that's the worst part of it. 

p. 339, Nothing is easier for people who never do anything themselves than to criticize someone who actually makes an effort. 

p. 405, "If you can do something for someone in such a way that they think they managed it all on their own, then you've done a good job."

p. 431, But if there's one thing modern life and the Internet have taught us, it's that you should never expect to win a discussion simply because you're right.

p. 448, ... they had all heard one another's stories, and that made it harder to dislike one another ...

p. 513, Sometimes we don't need distance, just barriers.



Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, written by James Clear

This book isn't about specific things that must be done to achieve specific goals, but focuses instead on a few general strategies that are applicable to any kind of habit the reader may want to change. Using simple, strategic approaches to small habits, there will eventually be significant, long-lasting changes in whatever area of life a person chooses to work on. I chose this book for the "published in 2018" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 18, Time magnifies the margin between success and failure. It will multiply whatever you feed it. Good habits make time your ally. Bad habits make time your enemy.

p. 22, All big things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision.

p. 23, Goals are about the results you want to achieve. Systems are about the processes that lead to those results.

p. 24, Goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress.

p. 54, Whenever you want to change your behavior, you can simply ask yourself:

1. How can I make it obvious? 
2. How can I make it attractive?
3. How can I make it easy?
4. How can I make it satisfying?

p. 71, I will [BEHAVIOR] at [TIME] in [LOCATION].

p. 73, No behavior happens in isolation. Each action becomes a cue that triggers the next behavior.

p. 86, Making a better decision is easy and natural when the cutes for good habits are right in front of you. 

p. 95, People with high self-control tend to spend less time in tempting situations. It's easier to avoid temptation than resist it.

p. 108, Desire is the engine that drives behavior. Every action is taken because of the anticipation that precedes it. Its is the craving that leads to the response. 

p. 117, One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where your desired behavior is the normal behavior. 

p. 158, Create an environment where doing the right thing is as easy as possible. 

p. 175, The average person spends over two hours per day on social media. What could you do with an extra six hundred hours per year?

p. 189, With our bad habits, the immediate outcome usually feels good, but the ultimate outcome feels bad. With good habits, it is the reverse: the immediate outcome is unenjoyable, but the ultimate outcome feels good.

p. 233, Improvement requires a delicate balance. You need to regularly search for challenges that push you to your edge while continuing to make enough progress to stay motivated. 

p. 246, 

(Annual review questions)

1. What went well this year?
2. What didn't go so well this year?
3. What did I learn?

(Integrity report questions)

1. What are the core values that drive my life and work?
2. How am I living and working with integrity right now?
3. How can I set a higher standard in the future?

p. 249, When you cling too tightly to one identity, you become brittle. Lose that one thing and you lose yourself.



The Golden Goblet, written by Eloise Jarvis McGraw

This is the fictional story of an orphaned Egyptian boy who wants to become a master goldsmith, following in the footsteps of his goldsmith father, but is forced to live with a cruel half-brother who won't allow it. It's a good story of crime and friendship, poverty and wealth, mystery and hard work that I read to Tyler for school.



The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, written by Rebecca Skloot

The true story of a woman whose cells radically changed the medical world, even though neither she nor her family were ever told they'd been harvested. It's a book that makes you consider science, medical ethics, and patients' rights, but it's also about racism, poverty, and how trauma impacts people in different ways.



Three Weeks with My Brother, written by Nicholas and Micah Sparks

The chapters of this memoir each have two parts. One is about a specific stop in a three week trip around the world the brothers took together, the other is about the experiences they've shared. It's about a lifetime of shared struggles and joys, as well as each coming alongside the other through their personal highs and lows. I chose this book for the "about travel" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 113, "In the end, marriage comes down to actions. I think people talk too much about the things that bother them, instead of actually doing the little things that make a marriage strong."

p. 187, When you chase a dream, you learn about yourself. You learn your capabilities and limitations, and the value of hard work and persistence.

p. 338, No longer interested in society's definition of success, he began purging his life of material things. Life, he decided, was for living, not for having, and he wanted to experience every moment that he could. At the deepest level, he'd come to understand that life could end at any moment, and it was better to be happy than busy. 



Tisha: The Wonderful True Love Story of a Young Teacher in the Alaskan Wilderness, as told to Robert Specht

While this book is a love story as the subtitle states, it's more than that. It's about nineteen year old Anne Hobbs venturing into the Alaskan wilderness to teach in a tiny school, learning much about the land and its people in the process. Covering the nine month period of a single school year, it's a story of strong people, a rugged environment, blatant racism, the humility to be teachable when wrong, and a determination to do what's right in the face of opposition. It reminded me a bit of The Year of Miss Agnes, except it's true and written for older readers. I chose this book for the "originally published in the year you were born" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

Monday, October 30, 2023

PUZZLES I FINISHED - OCTOBER 2023


Buy Local Honey - Artist: Jason Taylor - MasterPieces, Inc. - 1,000 pieces (missing 1)

This was a fun puzzle to do with all the bright colors and various patterns making up the cheerful scene. 



Cottage By The Sea - Artist: Chuck Pinson - Buffalo - 1,000 pieces (missing 2)

This one was more challenging that I expected it to be, but Tyler helped a bit in the beginning and Naomi helped me finish it. 



A Late Stroll - Artist: Richard Telford - Puzzle Collector Art - 500 pieces

A quaint scene filled with pretty flowers and fall colors, this was a quick one to assemble.




Paris City of Lights - Artist: Eric Dowdle - Dowdle Folk Art - 1,000 pieces

Our puzzle work slows down a lot during the summer, and this particular one was challenging because of the limited color variety, but I finally finished this beautiful scene during a puzzle binge last night. It was the most challenging Dowdle puzzle we've done, and we've done a bunch.

Sunday, October 29, 2023

10/29/23 - WORTH REPEATING

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Let us not take ourselves too seriously. None of us has a monopoly on wisdom.

- Queen Elizabeth II // 1440 Daily Digest,  9/9/23 edition


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"Sometimes when you're surrounded by dirt, CJ, you're a better witness for what's beautiful."


~ Last Stop on Market Street, written by Matt De La Pena and illustrated by Christian Robinson


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Fight for the things that you care about, but do it in a way that will lead others to join you.

~ Ruth Bader Ginsburg // 1440 Daily Digest,  9/18/23 edition


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The beautiful thing about learning is nobody can take it away from you.

~ BB King // 1440 Daily Digest,  9/16/23 edition


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True friendship is a plant of slow growth.

~ George Washington // You're My Friend So I Brought You This Book, edited by John Marvin


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People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.

~ Joseph Newton // You're My Friend So I Brought You This Book, edited by John Marvin


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Thursday, October 26, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for opportunities to meet new people. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, October 19, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for all the methods available to correct various vision problems. What's something that you're thankful for?

Thursday, October 12, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for the roses I see right outside my bedroom window as soon as I walk into the room. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, October 5, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful the Blue Angels did some flights over our neighborhood last weekend. What's something you're thankful for?

Saturday, September 30, 2023

BOOKS I FINISHED - SEPTEMBER 2023


Becoming, written by Michelle Obama

A behind the scenes look, both personally and professionally, Obama walks the reader through the highs and lows of different seasons of her life. Her deep love for her parents and brother, staunch commitment to her husband and daughters, value she places on education, determination to make the most of the opportunities she's been given, the way skin color has impacted her family's life, and support she's intentional about giving to those who need it are clearly seen throughout her story. I chose this book for the "political" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. ix, Now I think it's one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a child - What do you want to be when you grow up? As if growing up is finite. As if at some point you become something and that's the end. 

p. 7, Even if we didn't know the context, we were instructed to remember that context existed. Everyone on earth, they'd tell us, was carrying around an unseen history, and that alone deserved some tolerance.

p. 43, Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. It's vulnerability that breeds with self-doubt and then is escalated, often deliberately, by fear. 

p. 81, This is what a control freak learns inside the compressed otherworld of college, maybe above all else: There are simply other ways of being.

p. 117, It was one thing to get yourself out of a stuck place, I realized. It was another thing entirely to try and get the place itself unstuck.

p. 205, I began to see how I'd been stoking the most negative parts of myself, caught up in the notion that everything was unfair and then assiduously like a Harvard-trained lawyer, collecting evidence to feed that hypothesis. 

p. 251, Bullies were scared people hiding inside scary people. 

p. 270, I've learned that it's harder to hate up close.

p. 284, I was humbled and excited to be the First Lady, but not for one second did I think I'd be sliding into some glamorous, easy role. Nobody who has the words "first" and "black" attached to them ever would. I stood at the foot of the mountain, knowing I'd need to climb my way into favor.

p. 318, I also wanted to make sure that when I visited a new place as First Lady, I really visited it - meaning that I'd have a chance to meet the people who actually lived there, not just those who governed them.

p. 347, Our family time was when big worries and urgent concerns got abruptly and mercilessly shrunk to nothing so that the small could rightly take over.

p. 361, Friendships between women, as any woman will tell you, are built of a thousand small kindnesses like these, swapped back and forth and over again.

384, (K)ids will invest more when they feel they're being invested in.

p. 419, I've never been a fan of politics, and my experience over the last ten years has done little to change that. I continue to be put off by the nastiness - the tribal segregation of red and blue, this idea that we're supposed to choose one side and stick to it, unable to listen and compromise, or sometimes even to be civil.




Complete Stories and Poems of Edgar Allan Poe, (only the short story, William Wilson), written by Edgar Allan Poe

This story is about someone who has the consistent appearance in his life of a double, a person who looks, acts, and dresses just like him. I chose a story from this book for the "short story" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.




Crying in H Mart: A Memoir, written by Michelle Zauner

A book about losing a parent you've only recently become close to, as well as the inherent risk of losing your connection to the culture that defines half of you when that parent dies. A story of how food is strongly tied to relationships, memories, and healing. A tribute to one woman's relationship with her mom. I chose this book for the "on the New York Times Bestseller for more than 10 weeks" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.





This is the fascinating and inspiring story of a man who lived through an entire century. Dawson was the grandson of a slave, a man whose life experiences could have led to a life of anger and bitterness. Instead, he worked hard, took his marriage and parenting responsibilities seriously, and chose to have an optimistic perspective on his circumstances. I chose this book for the "historical non-fiction" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 219, People always ask me if I will ever get married again. I might. I might. There's lots of women that would like to marry me. That's because I treats them right and I am hones. I have never been unfaithful.

For me, it's like fishing. Some folks, they go fishing and they keep reeling in, changing bait, and trying again and again. Me, I cast out and then I stick with it. I just wait and be patient. There's no sense in changing. I just take my chances and then that is that. There's no way to know that any change is going to make anything better. That's true with fishing and with women.

p. 246, A person can't always be thinking about tomorrow and still enjoy themselves today, right now. 

p. 254, "Some people are growing children, not raising children, and there's a big different."

"What do you mean?"

"Well, people grow hogs. You give them a place to live, give them all the food they need to keep growing, and make sure that they don't get sick on you. With children you got to raise them. Of course, you feed and clothe them. But a parent has to take the time to teach them right and wrong. A parent has to discipline them. And a parent got to be there to listen to them, help them with their problems. I think most people do their best, but there are some parents these days that are growing children, not raising children."




The Prayer of Jesus: Secrets to Real Intimacy with God, written by Hank Hanegraaff and foreword by Lee Strobel

A short, valuable book about prayer that was written as a response of sorts to The Prayer of Jabez: Breaking Through to the Blessed Life, written by Bruce Wilkinson. Using the instruction Jesus gave for prayer, the reader is reminded of both why we pray and how to pray. This book was the September part of a year-long gift from a friend, one book to unwrap and read each month.

p. 10, The tragedy of contemporary Christianity is that we measure the success of our prayer life by the size and scope of our accomplishments, rather than the strength of our relationship with God.

p. 21, (R)elationships are cemented not just by giving and getting but by love and communication.

p. 30, While our Father knows what we need before we even ask, our supplications are in and of themselves an acknowledgement of our dependence on him. 

p. 45, With the word "amen" we are in effect saying, "May it be so in accordance with the will of God." It is a marvelous reminder that any discussion on prayer must begin with the understanding that prayer is a means of bringing us into conformity with God's will, not a magic mantra that ensures God's conformity to ours.

p. 59, (I)t served as a subtle reminder that we cannot rightly pray give and not be givers ourselves. 

p. 84, The bottom line is this: Relationships, whether human or divine, never grow apart from the investment of quality time. 

p. 87, The more you meditate on Scripture, the clearer the voice of the Master will be within the sounds of silence. 




Tears of the Giraffe, written by Alexander McCall Smith

This second book from The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency series has characters displaying infidelity and integrity, laziness and resourcefulness, bitterness and kindness. As with the first book, there are also thought-provoking parts mixed in with humorous ones. I chose this book for the "set in Africa" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 40, That was the difficulty, he realised. If you made any point about behavior these days, you sounded old-fashioned and pompous. The only way to sound modern, it appeared, was to say that people could do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted, and no matter what anybody else might think. That was the modern way of thinking.

p. 41, "There are some people who know that going fast is not always the best way of getting there, is it? It is better to be late than the late, is it not?"

p. 62, There was far too much interest in the past, she thought. People were forever digging up events that had taken place a long time ago. And what was the point in doing this if the effect was merely to poison the present? There were many wrongs in the past, but did it help to keep bringing them up and giving them a fresh airing? 

p. 113, The Americans were very clever; they sent rockets in to space and invented machines which could think more quickly than any human being alive, but all this cleverness could also make them blind. They did not understand other people. They thought that everyone looked at things in the same way as Americans did, but they were wrong. 

 


And Then There Were None, written by Agatha Christie

Ten strangers on a deserted island, each invited there by someone who never shows up. As they start to die, by one apparent murder at a time, the survivors try to figure out who's killing them all. I chose this book for the "by Agatha Christie" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.



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Thursday, September 28, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for the apple pie scented mum I recently bought, which I can see from windows in two rooms of our home and makes my front yard smell amazing. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, September 21, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for laughter and tears. What's something that you're thankful for?

Thursday, September 14, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for lemon ginger tea. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, September 7, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for a candle burning and a jar filled with flowers from the yard on the dining room table. What's something that you're thankful for?

Thursday, August 31, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for Spotify. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Wednesday, August 30, 2023

BOOKS I FINISHED - AUGUST 2023


The Beast and the Bethany, written by Jack Meggitt-Phillips and illustrated by Isabelle Follath

A 511 year old man who wants to maintain his youth. A beast who provides an anti-aging potion for the man in return for being fed whatever he wants. An obnoxious girl who will soon be fed to the beast. I read this book, which is the first in a three part series, aloud to Naomi and Tyler just for kicks and we all found it entertaining and funny. I chose this book for the "with a character that shares your name" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year, but was surprised to also see a brief appearance by a character with my maiden name.

p. 12, A wonderful life can turn someone into a terrible person. It makes you forget that there are people in the world who have problems, and this can stop you from really caring or worrying about others.

p. 148, When you are feeling un-jolly, there is nothing worse than having to deal with someone who is in a good mood.

p. 222, "It's a downright waste of life to spend too much time living in the past."




God Came Near: Chronicles of the Christ, written by Max Lucado 

Divided into two sections, God's incarnation and our imitation of him, and with short chapters that read like individual essays, this book helps the reader to better understand what it meant for Jesus, who was fully divine, to also be fully human. The more we know him, the more we'll be like him. I haven't read the study guide in the back of the book, so I can't vouch for that part. This book was the August part of a year-long gift from a friend, one book to unwrap and read each month. I chose this book for the "on theology" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 13, Christianity in its purest form, is nothing more than seeing Jesus. Christian service, in its purest form, is nothing more than imitating him who we see. To see His Majesty and to imitate him, that is the sum of Christianity. 

p. 48, You can almost see the tools of the trade in his words as he spoke. You can see the trueness of a plumb line as he called for moral standards. You can hear the whistle of the plane as he pleads for religion to shave away unnecessary traditions. You can picture the snugness of a dovetail as he demands loyalty in relationships. You can imagine him with a pencil and ledger as he urges honesty.

p. 80, Our problem is not so much that God doesn't give us what we hope for as it is that we don't know the right thing for which to hope. 

p. 83, In the darkness we listened to the divine orchestra. Electricity danced in the sky like a conductor's baton summoning the deep kettle drums of thunder.

p. 117, Never say anything about anyone in their absence that you wouldn't say in their presence.

p. 121, Somehow this eyeless pauper had discovered a candle called satisfaction and it glowed in his dark world. Someone had told him, or maybe he'd told himself, that tomorrow's joy is fathered by today's acceptance. Acceptance of what, at least for the moment, you cannot alter.

p. 125, The best way to deal with our past is to hitch up our pants, roll up our sleeves, and face it head on. No more buck-passing or scapegoating. No more glossing or covering up. No more games. We need a confrontation with our Master.

p. 128, (speaking of familiarity) His aim is deadly. His goal is nothing less than to take what is most precious to us and make it appear most common.

p. 134, God came near. If he is who he says he is, there is no truth more worthy of your time.


Heartsongs, written by Mattie J. T. Stepanek

This is the first of five books of poetry written by a boy who died at age 13, just a couple years after the book was published. (Two more of his books were published after his death.) The poems in this collection were written when he was 3-5 years old. I chose this book for the "author under 30" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.


The Hunger Games, written by Suzanne Collins

A group of teens forced to fight to the death and a country that finds their battle entertaining. Contestants choose whether to cooperate with each other or to think of no one but themselves, various leaders choose whether to sabotage contestants and when to support them, and each must always give consideration to both the spoken and unspoken strategies of everyone involved. I chose this book, which is the first in a trilogy, for the "bad reviews" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year. It's obviously a popular book now, but it didn't get good reviews when it was first published 15 years ago. 



The Outsiders, written by S.E. Hinton

Family life. Gang life. Wealth. Poverty. Foolishness. Maturity. Violence. Compassion. This novel reminds the reader that no one is exactly as they seem, that other's lives are always more complicated than we naturally self-centered people realize, and that people as a whole are more alike than different. I chose this book for the "makes you cry" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 123,  "I mean, most parents would be proud of a kid like that - good-lookin' and smart and everything, but they gave in to him all the time. He kept trying to make someone say 'No' and they never did. They never did. That was what he wanted. For somebody to tell him 'No.' To have somebody lay down the law, set the limits, give him something solid to stand on. That's what we all want, really."



Salt to the Sea, written by Ruta Sepetys

Inspired by the worse maritime disaster ever, the sinking of the Wilhelm Gustloff this novel is about people trying to escape to safety during WWII. Told in alternating voices, it's about refugees with secrets trying to determine who they can trust, regret about choices made, fanaticism and sacrifice, evil and integrity, loss and resilience, and what it looks like to truly care for someone. I chose this book for the "young adults best-seller" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 280, "It might be better for you to think for yourself, rather than memorizing the words of others."



Sold, written by Patricia McCormick

This novel is about a girl from Nepal whose family is in extreme poverty. Given an opportunity to leave home and work as maid, she's happy to have a way to help provide for her family's needs. It's only later that she discovers she's been sold into prostitution in India. Trapped both physically and financially, she must learn how to survive the horrific circumstances of her life and ultimately decide if the opportunity for escape is worth the risk. I chose this book for the "current world issue" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.



A Tale of Two Cities, written by Charles Dickens and narrated by Simon Prebble

Set during the French Revolution, this novel is about politics and prisoners, those who look after the well-being of others and those who delight in their death, the separation and reunification of family members. It's about loyalty and integrity, as well as betrayal and evil. It's about love in various relationships, always doing what's best for the one who's loved. I chose this book for the "written before 1920" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year. Struggling to follow along when I started reading the physical book, I searched online to find the best narrator for the audiobook and then checked that version out from Libby


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Saturday, August 26, 2023

8/26/23 - WORTH REPEATING

*****

Poem

Fingerprints look like ripples
because time keeps dropping
another stone into our palm.

~ Bill Knott, quoted in 180 More: Extraordinary Poems for Every Day, selected and with an introduction by Billy Collins


*****

Your truth is the whisper in the chaos.

~ King of Glory  // All Sons & Daughters // All Sons & Daughters


*****

Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.

~ Those Who Remain: A Postapocalyptic Novel // G. Michael Hopf

*****

The measure of achievement is not winning awards. It’s doing something that you appreciate, something you believe is worthwhile."

- Julia Child // quoted in 8/15/23 1440 Daily Digest


*****

Love God and do whatever you please: for the soul trained in love to God will do nothing to offend the one who is beloved.

~ St. Augustine


*****


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Thursday, August 24, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for our extra freezer. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, August 17, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for deodorant. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, August 10, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for wild blackberries. What's one thing that you're thankful for?

Thursday, August 3, 2023

THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for cities that offer free outdoor performances of music, plays, movies, ballet, and so on in the summer for the people in their community. What's something you're thankful for?

Monday, July 31, 2023

BOOKS I FINISHED - JULY 2023


The Loneliest Americans, written by Jay Caspian Kang

Kang, who's part of a family of Korean immigrants, describes what it's like to be Asian American in a country that focuses primarily on being either black or white, how different eras of immigration led to different ways of assimilating, his struggle to find his place in the world as an Asian American, and the questions he has about what his daughter will face as she grows up. I chose this book for the "recommended by a librarian" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 12, The stubborn optimisms of the immigrant says that while your own life often shows just how quickly things can get catastrophically worse, American progress remains immutable. The second-generation immigrant envisions progress as an incline: our immigrant parents push us halfway up the slope, and we hike the rest of the way and then gently roll our own kids over the summit.

p. 223, Whatever it was, I assumed she would face less resistance than I had, which, I suppose, in some ways meant that the bootstrapping immigrant narrative would end with her. The other paradox at the heart of immigrant strivers is that we work so that our children will become the spoiled children we despise.

p. Naked self-interest and narcissism do not inspire solidarity.



Loving God with All Your Mind, written by Elizabeth George

This book encourages the reader to not allow negative thoughts to consume them. There's guidance on how to focus on what's actually true in various situations, not give in to worry, and to trust in God's goodness when our circumstances aren't good at all. I chose this book for the "green spine" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 32, However real the pain, the hurts, and the disappointments of your life are, you must remember the greater reality of God's love, power, and redemption.

p. 52, The future exists only in the imagination. < snip > Plan for the future and set goals for yourself, but also be sure to leave them in God's hands. Use your energy to draw close to God in the present and to train your thoughts to think about and deal with things that are true and real ... right now!

p. 66, Taking our thoughts captive to Christ - to the  Word of God, to what is true and real - calls for energy, effort, and a heart commitment to obey God. It is a battle - a battle fought in the mind and a battle for the mind. And it is a battle fought one thought at a time ... for victory over one thought at a time.

p. 96, I was not to speculate on my future because God wasn't asking me to handle my entire life all at once. Instead, His wisdom was telling me to limit my thoughts to today, to what was real right now. 

p. 124, We cannot make progress when we are resting on our laurels, resting on past successes.

p. 125, (quoting Chuck Swindoll) Dig in and pay the price for solid, challenging years in school, and apply your education with all your ability, but please spare others from the tiring reminders of how honored they should feel in your presence. Reach the maximum of your potential - but don't talk about it. 

p. 156, We are called to live for Christ every day, not just until some magical, arbitrary age or income level when we stop serving others and serve only ourselves. No, we are called to press on and to finish the race.

p. 213, To remind yourself of God's message to your heart during hard and difficult times, take to heart - and to memory! - these ABCs.

A - Acknowledge God's Hand
B - Bloom Where You Are Planted
C - Concentrate on God's Promises
D - Do Something Useful



Of Mice and Men, written by John Steinbeck

Two men who are very different from each other become a family of sorts, traveling together to work on farms as they dream about the land they'll eventually own. This story's about friendship, racism, disability, marriage, arrogance, and isolation. It shows people trying to do what's right when the odds are stacked against them, choosing if and how to protect the weak, and determining the lesser of two evils. I chose this book for the "was once banned" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.



Painted Horses, written by Malcolm Brooks

A dam is about to be built in Montana and there's controversy over whether or not it will ruin ancient, sacred sites. A young archeologist is tasked with confirming that nothing of historical value will be ruined before the project starts, an endeavor that will not be without challenges. This book was the July part of a year-long gift from a friend, one book to unwrap and read each month.


To Kill a Mockingbird, written by Harper Lee

A single dad who works as a small town lawyer. A mysterious man the lawyer's kids have never actually seen. A black man falsely accused of raping a white woman. These men's stories join together in a novel that addresses serious issues in a way that doesn't feel oppressive. Multiple characters with messy lives. Multiple complicated situations. It's heartbreaking, endearing, maddening, and inspiring. I chose this book for the "read in school" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year.

p. 23, Until I feared I would lose it, I never loved to read. One does not love breathing.

p. 130, "People in their right minds never take pride in their talents," said Miss Maudie.

p. 149, "I wanted you to see something about her - I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do."

p. 210, "A mob's always made up of people, no matter what."

p. 295, "The one place where a man ought to get a square deal is in a courtroom, be he any color of the rainbow, but people have a way of carrying their resentments right into a jury box. As you grow older, you'll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don't you forget it - whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, or how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash."


World in Between, written by Kenan Trebincevic and Susan Shapiro

Trebincevic fled his country as an eleven year old and this young adult book is based on his story. The story spans twenty-six months - from the life he loved in Yugoslavia, through multiple moves in multiple countries, to finally starting to feel settled in the United States. It's a book about safety and danger, kindness and cruelty, loss and gains, remembering that we never know someone's whole story, and actively looking for ways to help others. I chose this book for the "topic you're passionate about" category of a reading challenge I'm doing this year. Trebincevic also has a book about his experience that's written for adults called The Bosnia List: A Memoir of War, Exile, and Return, co-authored with Susan Shapiro, which I haven't read.


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