Monday, March 10, 2014

3/10/14 MEMORIES ON MONDAY

This picture was taken late in the summer of 1994, just before I headed off for college. The girl sitting next to me was named Lisa. She was twelve when this picture was taken, a girl with strong opinions about movies and music, a great sense of humor, and the ability to communicate volumes without ever speaking a word.

I first met Lisa when I was hanging out with a friend who helped at her house and ended up working there myself soon after. I spent three and a half years, from February of my freshman year of high school through the summer after I graduated, helping to take care of Lisa's physical needs and doing a variety of other things around the house to help her family.

Her mom and sister (who I'm still in contact with), dad, and grandparents became friends of mine and they gave me the honor of being one of the people who spoke at Lisa's memorial service when she died unexpectedly less than a year after this picture was taken. It's been almost twenty years since she died and I think about her often.


Sunday, March 9, 2014

THREE SILLY KIDS

Devon came home on Friday afternoon and asked if he could eat some candy he had.  I told him that was fine.  He asked if he could share some with Naomi and Teebs (Silas wasn't home).  I told him that was also fine.  The three of them then proceeded to spend a significant chunk of time comparing and combining flavors, laughing and making silly faces, and just enjoying each other's company while I worked on making dinner.  Love them!



Saturday, March 8, 2014

HELPING THOSE IN NEED

We've had multiple seasons of tight finances over the years and it's been neat to see the ways our needs have been met during those times.  Sometimes people have known of a specific need and met it, other times people having given us seemingly random things or done things without knowing it's exactly what we needed at the time.  Sometimes people have given us things directly, other times they've given anonymously (which, by the way, is a super fun way to give).

I know many of you want to help those in need, but you don't have any personal experience with struggling to make ends meet and can't think of anything other than cash gifts to ease the burden of those who need a little help.  Others want to help and don't have any cash to spare, but you may have stockpiles of toiletries and household goods you've accumulated with couponing. Many simply haven't thought of all the little things you use over the course of a day that a family or individual who's short on cash may be giving up in order to pay the bills.  So, with far more experience on the receiving end of things than I'd have ever chosen to have, I feel pretty qualified to share some ideas.

I've actually had this list sitting around as a draft for over a year, but have been hesitant to post it.  Why? Because I don't want it to seem like a manipulative wish list.  So let me just tell you that it's not.  These are just some basic items that we haven't been able to afford at one point or another, almost all of which we've had the personal experience of receiving from others. Most are needs, at least in the sense that they are basic, practical items.  A few things are the fluff of life, things we've been given just because someone wanted to bless us with something frivolous. All have met a need, whether physical or emotional.

So, without further ado, here are some suggestions of things that may be helpful to those who are in need of financial help.  This list is certainly not exhaustive, not everyone will need or want everything on the list, and I'm sure I'll think of more things as soon as I hit "publish", but it's a start and hopefully it will give you some ideas of how to help people in your life whose expenses are exceeding their income.

KITCHEN
foil
saran wrap
ziploc bags
napkins
toothpicks
food (they may have an adequate supply from gardening, livestock, and/or food stamps)
dishsoap and/or dishwasher detergent

BATHROOM
shampoo/conditioner
soap/body wash
lotion
toothpaste
dental floss
tampons
pads/liners
razors
q-tips
toilet paper

MEDICATIONS (make sure they're age appropriate)
pain relievers
allergy relief

GENERAL HOUSEHOLD
laundry detergent
cleaning supplies (baking soda and vinegar or store-bought cleaners, whichever they prefer)
vacuum bags (if their vacuum requires one)
light bulbs
batteries
firewood (for those who use a wood stove or fireplace for heat)

KIDS
diapers
wipes
clothing (seasonal and regular)
shoes
infant/toddler gear (bottles, lidded cups, silverware, bibs, carseats, etc., especially for kids moving from infancy to toddlerhood)

ADULTS
clothing (seasonal and regular)
shoes

GIFT CARDS
gas stations
stores that sell household items, clothing, toiletries or other things that might be needed
places where they can get their hair cut
restaurants or other places they can go to do something fun with their family

MISCELLANEOUS
postage stamps
cash for bills
cash or gift cards for buying birthday gifts
cash or gift cards for buying Christmas gifts
pay for their children's activities (church, school, community, etc.)
pay for their activities (dinner with friends, church functions, books for clubs/studies, etc.)
pay some of their rent, electric bill, water bill, or any other monthly bill
help financially or practically with house repairs
help financially or practically with car repairs and/or maintenance


Typing up this list was fun because it reminded me of so many times we've been blessed by the generosity of others. One of the most memorable times, simply because it was an uncommon way to be helped, was the time the property management office of the apartment we lived in mailed us an invoice for our account, something that wasn't their standard procedure.  A deposit that we had not made was circled and a note written next to it that said something like, "We're just letting you know your fairy godmother put some money toward your rent".  Someone had contacted the property management, given them our name and address, then credited our account with some money ... and done it anonymously.  How cool is that?!

We've also been able to be on the giving end of these things many times.  That's always a fun place to be, but I think there's an extra layer of fun when you know what a relief it is to have a need met that you weren't sure how to take care of.

Anything you've given that's not on this list?  Have you ever received something practical and obvious that I forgot? Maybe something creative that most people wouldn't think of, but that was a big help?  Do you have a story of a time when your needs were met by someone else's generosity?

UPDATE: Here are some ideas friends gave when I linked this post on Facebook.

* I know you don't have pets, but we do, obviously, haha ... but when someone's budget has become spontaneously long term tight, it can help to have someone give them things for pets.  Like Condroiton from Sam's ... or may be a vet gift card.  Because we all love our dog, but we're not going to put dog needs/pet needs above people needs and that is a horrible feeling.

* This year the kids have had a couple of big projects at school that required us to get supplies from a craft store.  Maybe a gift card for school expenses that come up unexpectedly?

Thursday, March 6, 2014

MENU: 3/6/14 - 3/12/14

Here are two new recipes before I show you our next menu.  I actually have two more that we've tried over the last week, but I haven't posted them yet.  I'll get that done before next week's menu.

pesto pasta with protein and produce - I created this one night when I didn't want to make pizza crust for pesto chicken pizza.  I took boiled some orzo we had in the cupboards, tossed in some of the pizza ingredients ... then kept tossing in other things ... then threw it in the oven for a bit. I loved the end result! 

roasted brussels sprouts with pecans and gorgonzola - Diana shared this recipe with me a while back and I forgot to post it when we made it.  Oops.  


BREAKFASTS
* doughnuts
* oatmeal with brown sugar, cinnamon, milk, raisins, fruit, huh-koe-pee milk, and energy mix as optional toppings 
     - with cottage cheese and fruit x2
     - with yogurt, fruit, and spinach smoothies x1
* scrambled eggs (ours are always made with a ton of chopped spinach, sometimes some chopped tomatoes, a bit of pepper, and always a sprinkling of some type of cheese)/toast x2

baked oatmeal (Tim made unplanned pancakes, so we didn't get to this last time)

SCHOOL DAY LUNCHES
* meat & cheese sandwiches/carrots/apples
* pb&j/carrots/kiwi

* pumpkin muffins/applesauce/cheddar/pea pods
* string cheese/cukes/dried apricots/dry roasted almonds
* deviled eggs/crackers/red bell pepper/pea pods

DINNERS
* leftovers
tacos (seasoned meat and crockpot beans from the freezer) 
* penne & sausage casserole (freeze half the sauce)/roasted broccoli
* kale & broccoli quinoa/peppered tomato slices/corn on the cob
* grilled asparagus with lemon cheese sauce (except I'm going to roast instead of grill)/rice/sesame honey chicken (crockpot)
* coconut chicken (crockpot)/rice/Leslie's salad


SNACKS & DESSERTS
* produce
* hummus for veggies
* nuts - pistachios & dry roasted almonds
* popcorn (kernels from the Winco bulk department & a West Bend Stir Crazy to pop them in)
* coconut bread


3/6/14 THANKFUL THURSDAY

I'm thankful for rain.

What's something that you're thankful for?

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

LINKS I LIKE #12

I've been stockpiling all sorts of great links for you guys. Ready?  

Ron Mueck - This man creates amazing sculptures of people! A.ma.zing. They all look so real.

Being Willing to Help with Childcare at Church - My friend Vinae challenges people, particularly those who aren't in the throes of parenting littles, to be willing to serve parents in this way ... or at least to give it serious consideration. As I said in the comment section of her post when it was first published, I'm so thankful for people pre-, mid-, and post-kids who are willing to serve in children's ministry!!

Ten Important Things Kids Should Know - The author of this post was writing to her daughter, but I think all of these things are important for boys and girls. Things like sharing your passions, being physically active, having the freedom to disagree with people, and reading a lot.

Clothing Swap - Seven pairs of young adults swapped outfits with an older relative for a photo shoot. The link shows each pair in their own clothes first, then in the other person's clothes. Super fun idea! 

God May Not Have a Wonderful Plan for Your Life - A great post about an expression that's frequently used in Christian circles. I love the following quote. 

He never promised a wonderful life. In fact, he promised hardship. Jesus said the poor will be blessed. But, He didn't say He would end poverty. He said those who mourn will be comforted. But, He never promised that mourning wouldn't be part of our lives.  

Cool and Crazy House Ideas - Some of these are awesome. Some are nuts. All are fun to look at. I think my favorites are the hammock bed and the swing set dining table.  

Something Important About Giving Gifts - Elisha talks about giving in a way that shows you value the person receiving your gift. Some of the best gifts that have been given in our family weren't particularly exciting, but they were completely perfect for the person receiving them. They proved that the giver paid attention to the details of the recipient's life.  


Verses About Sensitivity (the easily and/or chronically hurt and offended kind) - Shanna posted this link on Facebook a while back. I think it's worth reading and pondering.  

Book Lists - I enjoy seeing what others are reading and often add books to my own TBR list from their lists. These two are from a daughter's friend who lives with and works for my sister's family and from a friend of mine. Hannah listed out all the books she read in 2013. Mandi listed and linked all the books she read last year, sorted by fiction and non-fiction, and the books she plans on reading this year.

Dealing With Difficult People - Whether it's a child who is stretching you to your limits (which is the reference point for the author) or some other relationship that tends to highlight the worst aspects of yourself, this post is great. There are several things worth quoting, but I'll just share this part from the end of the post.

The careful attention we give can absolutely change a challenging dynamic between two people, inserting patience and grace and love where there was once apathy and anger and irritation. But even if the relationship remains unchanged, we are still better when we aren't behaving like our worst selves. That release alone is worth the worth, mitigating the shame of Being Icky to Someone.

A Life of Service - I had the kids watch this short video. I think it's so important to remember that you can't judge a person's character solely on one aspect of their life. I also think it's really important to serve others.



Sunday, March 2, 2014

OLD FRIENDS, FIRST MEETING

I met Jess online about eight years ago and we've been friends ever since, but have never met in person. We came kinda close three summers ago, but it didn't work out.  She's been in my general neck of the woods for the last week-ish and had told me some times she thought she could hang out.  It turns out her schedule has been too packed for a visit and those times weren't going to work, so last night I got all wild and crazy and made a spontaneous decision.

Five Ws went to our church this morning.  I went to a different one.  And I met an old friend (and her family) for the first time.